"Out of the mouths of children and babies Thou hast ordained praise...." (Psalm 8:2)
Healing, Forgiveness, and Hope
Help For Mothers Who Did Not Choose Life
"Be merciful to me, Redeemer, for I am in trouble; my eyes are tired from so much crying; I am completely worn out. I am exhausted by sorrow, and weeping has shortened my life. My strength fails and leaves me weak, because of my sin." (Psalm 31:9-10)
If this is how you feel because of an abortion, I would like you to be able to find comfort in knowing that your Creator is crying with you. He feels your pain, and He understands.
I would also like you to know that He loves you. He created you to be His child, and He is very fond of you. You are very very special to Him.
I am sure that you believe that your baby is special to Him, but I want you to know something else, and that is that you are just as special to Him as your baby that your are grieving over. He loves you just as much as your baby, and because you are so special to Him, He wants to heal you, to redeem you, to forgive you, to save you, to set you free, and to give you the opportunity to go on and to do better.
The Bible says about Him, "Even though You are so high above, You care for the lowly..." (Psalm 138:6) He cares for you.
Long ago, there was a man named David who had made some big mistakes and been in some bad situations. He had even killed someone. But he knew that there was someone who could forgive him and heal him even from such great sins. He wrote these words:
"And now, O Most High, what do I wait for? My hope is in You. Deliver me from all my transgressions... Hear my prayer, O Master, and listen to my cry. Do not be silent at my tears. For I am a stranger with You.... O spare me, that I may recover strength....." (Psalm 39:7-8, 12-13)
We have all sinned. You are not the only one who has sinned. We have all done things that make us guilty before our Creator.
"Do not punish us for the sins of our past. Have mercy on us now; we have lost all hope and we are brought very low. Help us, O Creator of salvation; rescue us and forgive our sins for the sake of Your own honour. Then we, Your people, will thank You forever and praise You for all time to come." (Psalm 79:8-9, 13)
This is exactly what He does. He loves to rescue us and forgive us. He is just waiting to forgive us and to renew us and to offer us hope.
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)
Notice that this does not say, "from some unrighteous", but "from all unrighteousness". His forgiveness is all-inclusive. It is His heart desire to forgive you and set you free.
"And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. If the Son therefore shall make you free, you shall be free indeed." (John 8:32, 36)
"The Most High is merciful and loving, slow to become angry, and full of constant love. As high as the sky is above the earth, so great is His love for those who honour Him. As far as the East is from the West, so far does He remove our sins from us." (Psalm 103:8, 11-12)
"Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the Name of the Messiah, for the forgiveness of sins, and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit." (Acts 2:38)
"All that the Father gives Me shall come to Me, and the person that comes to Me, I will by no means cast out." (John 6:37)
He does not hold your past against you. There are no prerequisites or conditions you must meet, other than acknowledging who He is and being willing to let Him change you. If you come to Him in sincerity, truly seeking His forgiveness and being willing to be cleansed and to begin a new life in Him, HE WILL NOT SEND YOU AWAY.
Sometimes, we have the temptation to dwell on what we have done. It is hard to get past the mistakes that we have made, especially when they have harmed others. Our Creator, though, is a Creator of healing and of forgiveness. He does not want you to live your life in the past. He wants to offer you a future of hope.
"Do not cling to events of the past or dwell on what happened long ago. Watch for the new thing I am going to do. It is happening already — you can see it now! I will make a road through the wilderness and give you streams of water there. You are one of the people I have made for Myself, and you will sing My praises." (Isaiah 43:18-19, 21)
"This one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of our Creator in our Savior Messiah." (Philippians 3:13-14)
These words were written by the Apostle Paul in a letter to some believers in a town called Philippi. He had quite a past to leave behind, which we will talk about in a minute. In another letter, to a young man named Timothy, Paul wrote:
"I give thanks to Messiah our Savior, who has given me strength for my work. I thank Him for considering me worthy and appointing me to serve Him, even though in the past I spoke evil of Him and persecuted and injured people. But Messiah was merciful to me because I did not yet have faith and so did not know what I was doing. And our Master poured out His abundant grace on me and gave me the faith and love that is found in Messiah. This is a true saying, to be completely accepted and believed: Messiah came into the world to save sinners. I am the worst of them, but the Creator of Life was merciful to me in order that Messiah might show His full patience in dealing with me (the worst of sinners) as an example for all those who would later believe in Him and receive eternal life. To the eternal King, the only Redeemer — to Him be honour and glory forever and ever! Amen!" (1 Timothy 1:12-17)
The Apostle Paul had a very rough background, a background of sin and guilt. In his past, he did not believe in the Messiah, and it was his main objective in life to find as many people as he could who did believe in Messiah and lead them away to be killed. In that time and location, it was considered a crime to believe in Messiah, and Paul was zealous about bringing death to Messiah’s followers. One day, as Paul was travelling to Damascus to arrest more believers, a light shone from heaven, blinding him, and he fell to the ground. He heard a voice speaking to him from heaven, calling his name and asking him, "Why do you persecute Me?" It was the Messiah speaking to him from heaven, revealing that He was real and that Paul was actually sinning against Him by sinning against His followers. After this, Paul was blind for three days, but the Savior used this time of physical blindness to open the eyes of his heart so that he would see his need of Messiah, and see that his life needed changed. When
his eyesight was given back to him, he went on with his life — a new life found in Messiah — and became a powerful evangelist, leading many many people to faith in Messiah through his sincere testimony and preaching of the Scriptures.
Paul could have felt that he was unworthy of Messiah’s forgiveness, because, after all, he said that he was the worst of sinners. He could have refused to accept forgiveness, and just held on to his own feelings of guilt and unworthiness. The fact is, we are all unworthy of Messiah’s forgiveness. There are two reasons to accept His gift though.
For one thing, He wants to forgive you just for your sake, because He loves you, and He created you to find fulfilment and peace and eternal life in Him, and it grieves Him if you refuse to receive His gift and to become the person that He created you to be.
The second reason to accept His gift is because you are not the only person who needs it. There are millions more people out there who are broken by their own feelings of guilt, pain, and unworthiness — millions more who need a message of hope and forgiveness. There are millions more people out there who are faced with the same difficult decisions you’ve been faced with, and who need help, counsel, and understanding to know how to choose what’s right. If you refuse His forgiveness, you make it impossible for Him to use you to save anyone else’s life. By accepting the Heavenly Father’s forgiveness, and allowing Him to cleanse your life and fill you with hope and purpose, you can become a testimony to others, and You can be used by Him in a very special way to reach others who need this same hope. Because you have been in their shoes and understand how they feel, you will be able to make a difference for people who would not be reached otherwise.
"Happy are those whose sins are forgiven, whose wrongs are pardoned. Happy is the one whom the Most High does not accuse of doing wrong and who is free from deceit. When I did not confess my sins, I was worn out from crying all day long. Day and night You punished me. My strength was completely drained, as moisture is dried up by the Summer heat." (Psalm 32:1-4)
Trying to deny your sin, ignore it, or even just hide it as a secret and keep it all to yourself, will not get rid of it. You may have kept it as a secret from everyone you know, but there is someone who knows your secret, and that is your loving Heavenly Father. He doesn’t want you to carry this burden on your own. He knows all about it, and He wants you to talk to Him about it so that He can carry you through this and help you to find forgiveness and healing. It grieves Him to see you struggling with this on your own, being weighed down by the burden and pain and guilt of it. He wants to take your hand and lead you to a place of healing.
"Then I confessed my sins to You; I did not conceal my wrongdoings. I decided to confess them to You, and You forgave all my sins." (Psalm 32:5)
"Call unto Me and I will answer you.... Behold, I will bring you health and cure, and I will cure you, and will reveal unto you the abundance of peace and truth. And I will purify you from all the sins that You have committed against Me; and I will forgive all your sins...." (Jeremiah 33:3, 6, 8)
Do you remember the man named David that I mentioned? After he intentionally caused the death of an innocent person, he cried out to the Almighty in a prayer of repentance:
"Be merciful to me, O Almighty, because of Your constant love. Because of Your great mercy, wipe away my sins! Wash away all my evil and make me clean from my sin! I recognize my faults. I am always conscious of my sins. I have sinned against You — only against You — and done what You consider evil. Sincerity and truth are what You require. Fill my mind with Your wisdom! Remove my sin, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear the sounds of joy and gladness; and though You have crushed me and broken me, I will be happy once again. Close Your eyes to my sins, and wipe out all my evil. Create a pure heart in me, O Everlasting One, and put a new and loyal spirit in me. Do not banish me from Your presence. Do not take Your holy Spirit away from me. Give me again the joy that comes from Your salvation, and make me willing to obey You. Then I will teach sinners Your commands, and they will turn back to You. Spare my life, O Mighty One of my salvation and save me, and I will gladly proclaim Your righteousness. Help me to speak, O Master, and I will praise You. You do not want sacrifices, or I would offer them..... My sacrifice is a humble spirit, O Most High. O Redeemer, You will not reject a humble and repentant heart." (portions of Psalm 51)
The same One who heard and honoured David’s prayer, and granted him forgiveness, wants to grant you forgiveness too.
In another psalm, David said:
"Evening and morning and at noon I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice." (Psalm 55:17)
He hears your voice too. His ears are tuned to hear the cries of the distressed.
"For the Creator so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but should have everlasting life." (John 3:16)
Notice that it does not say that some people who believe on Him can have everlasting life, but that whosoever believes on Him can have everlasting life. That "whosoever" means everyone — it means YOU.
"The Almighty Redeemer says, 'Remember this: remember that you are My servant. I created you to be My servant, and I will never forget you. I have swept your sins away like a cloud. Come back to Me: I am the one who saves you and redeems you.' " (Isaiah 44:21-22)
"I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go: I will guide you with Mine eye." (Psalm 32:8)
"Then My favour will shine on you like the morning sun, and your wounds will be quickly healed. I will always be with you to save you; My presence will protect you on every side. When you pray, I will answer you. When you call to me, I will respond and say, 'Here I am.' ...... I will always guide you and satisfy you with good things. I will keep you strong and well. You will be like a garden that has plenty of water, like a spring of water that never goes dry. Your people will rebuild what has long been in ruins, building again on the old foundations. You will be known as the people who rebuilt the walls, who restored what was ruined." (Isaiah 58:8-12)
As you come to Him and allow Him to take your burden of sin, setting you free, you can become a tool in His hand that He will use to bring restoration to other people who need understanding, love, encouragement, and moral support. You can help other people make the right choices. You can help other people in desperate situations know that there is hope. You can be a living testimony of the grace of the Messiah. It is my prayer for you that You will allow Him to light your candle and to enlighten your darkness (Psalm 18:28), and that Messiah will "direct your heart into the love of the Heavenly Father" (2 Thessalonians 3:5).
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